Changing People: A Psychological Impossibility - Part 6
This series began with a simple observation from twenty years in family support: you can't change people. People can adapt, and can evolve their ideas, their skills, their life. What started as a single essay expanded into six, each revealing different layers of an impasse between human biology and professional aspiration. The journey of writing these essays itself demonstrates how understanding emerges - not through planning but through following ideas where they lead.
The initial intention was modest: one academic essay exploring why trying to change people never works. But one essay couldn't contain what needed exploring.
Angie Thokden and her world emerged because abstract theory alone couldn't illuminate the daily reality of attempting impossible change. These fictional characters - the Pakdens, Hakdsons, the entire Midkwell team - were tools for exploration. Fiction allowed examination of patterns too sensitive for case studies, too complex for theory alone.
Crucially, fiction revealed how nothing exists in isolation. A single "stuck" case looks like failure until you see the whole caseload. Some families appearing to "change" when environments shift, others performing compliance without transformation, some trapped by poverty despite engagement. The patterns only emerge when you see the whole ecology - families who "succeed" aren't different in motivation, they have different environmental conditions.
Each essay revealed something demanding further exploration:
Imagine a Systemic Family Practitioner commissioned to work with the Pakdens. After five sessions - three with the family alone, two including Angie - the therapist sketches out a hypothesis with everyone present. Together, they brew this into a formulation that sees the full 360-degree scope:
The formulation sees everything: the family's strengths, the system's impossibilities, the political pressures, the biological realities, the environmental constraints. It names what cannot change whilst identifying what could shift. It celebrates survival whilst acknowledging struggle. It sees Angie not as failed change-agent but as witness to impossible demands.
This systemic view bridges fiction and science - showing how understanding the full ecology reveals why direct change fails whilst environmental adaptation sometimes succeeds.
It's crucial to emphasise: this formulation, like everything about Angie Thokden's world, is entirely fictional. The Pakdens don't exist. Neither does the Systemic Family Practitioner who might work with them. Angie herself is invention - a construct designed to carry ideas too complex for abstract theory alone. Marcus, Sarah, the entire Midkwell team, the six families with their impossible names - all are tools crafted to illuminate patterns, not testimonies from the field.
This fictional framework was necessary precisely because real cases would be too specific, too identifiable, too constrained by confidentiality. Through invention, we could explore the full ecology of impossibility - from Westminster's cascade of targets to Meera Pakden's morning paralysis, from professional moral injury to family survival strategies. Fiction allowed examination of how nothing exists in isolation, how one "stuck" case only makes sense within the context of an entire caseload, team, service, system.
But while the characters are fictional, what they illuminate is not. The patterns they reveal, the impasses they navigate, the shadow systems they develop - these emerge from decades of observation across real services. More importantly, the science that explains these patterns is robust, peer-reviewed, and revolutionary for professional practice. The fiction was scaffolding; what it helped build is evidence-based understanding of why change fails and adaptation sometimes succeeds.
The fictional framework served its purpose - illuminating patterns, exposing impasses, revealing navigation strategies. But professionals need more than illustration. They need robust scientific foundation for practice. The research is unequivocal.
Natural selection didn't create organisms that change easily - it created organisms that resist change fiercely, even when change would benefit them. This isn't pathology but evolutionary success.
Psychological Reactance (Brehm, 1966; Dillard & Shen, 2005): When people perceive their freedom threatened, they experience reactance - a motivational state aimed at restoring the threatened freedom. Direct attempts to change behaviour trigger this ancient system, creating resistance proportional to the perceived pressure.
Error Management Theory (Haselton & Buss, 2000; Johnson et al., 2013): Evolution shaped decision-making to minimise costly errors. For our ancestors, the cost of unnecessary change (abandoning successful strategies) far exceeded the cost of missing beneficial changes. We're descended from those who resisted change, not those who embraced it readily.
Life History Theory (Del Giudice et al., 2015; Ellis et al., 2009): Organisms adapt their strategies based on environmental harshness and unpredictability. In threatening environments, "fast" strategies (immediate survival) take precedence over "slow" strategies (long-term optimisation). Families in crisis aren't failing to plan - they're exhibiting evolutionarily appropriate responses to threat.
The brain architecture that resists change isn't a bug - it's a feature:
The Default Mode Network (Raichle, 2015): The brain's baseline state actively maintains existing patterns. Change requires sustained metabolic expenditure to override default states. The approximately 20% of the body's energy consumed by the brain prioritises maintaining stability, not pursuing change.
Prediction Error Processing (Clark, 2013; Friston, 2010): The brain is fundamentally a prediction machine, minimising surprise by maintaining existing models. Change represents prediction error, which the system works to minimise, not maximise. Professional interventions often increase prediction error, triggering defensive responses.
Stress Response Systems (McEwen & Stellar, 1993; Lupien et al., 2009): Under threat, the HPA axis prioritises immediate survival over long-term adaptation. Cortisol narrows attention, reduces cognitive flexibility, and reinforces existing patterns. Families under stress aren't resisting help - their neurobiology is protecting them from additional challenge.
The research consistently shows that adaptation occurs through environmental shift, not individual transformation:
Ecological Systems Theory (Bronfenbrenner & Morris, 2006): Human development occurs through progressive, mutual accommodation between active humans and changing environments. Change the environment, and humans adapt. Try to change humans directly, and they resist.
Niche Construction Theory (Odling-Smee et al., 2003; Laland & O'Brien, 2011): Organisms don't just adapt to environments - they modify environments to suit their needs. Supporting families' own environmental modifications is more effective than imposing external changes.
Dynamic Systems Theory (Thelen & Smith, 2006; Spencer et al., 2011): Behaviour emerges from the interaction of multiple components over time. Small environmental changes can trigger significant behavioural shifts through system reorganisation, whilst direct attempts at behaviour change often fail.
Research across disciplines confirms that environmental modification enables adaptation whilst direct change attempts trigger resistance:
Housing First initiatives (Tsemberis, 2010; Padgett et al., 2016): Providing stable housing without requiring prior behaviour change shows 85-90% retention rates, compared to 30-50% for traditional "treatment first" approaches. Environmental stability enables adaptation that pressure couldn't achieve.
Unconditional Cash Transfers (Haushofer & Shapiro, 2016; Baird et al., 2013): Direct resource provision without behavioural conditions shows greater impact on family wellbeing than conditional programmes. Families adapt effectively when constraints are removed, not when change is mandated.
Family Preservation Services (Kirk & Griffith, 2004; Ryan & Schuerman, 2004): Intensive support maintaining children in homes shows that environmental modification and resource provision prevent family breakdown more effectively than parent training programmes.
The neuroscience of trauma reveals why direct change attempts fail for vulnerable families:
Polyvagal Theory (Porges, 2011; Dana, 2018): Trauma shifts nervous system states toward survival responses. In dorsal vagal (freeze) or sympathetic (fight/flight) states, the social engagement system necessary for change is neurobiologically offline. Safety must precede change, not follow it.
Attachment Neuroscience (Schore, 2012; Siegel, 2012): Early relational trauma shapes neural architecture toward hypervigilance and resistance. These adaptations were survival responses to genuinely dangerous environments. Attempting to change these patterns without addressing environmental safety re-traumatises rather than heals.
Epigenetic Research (Meaney, 2010; Bick et al., 2012): Environmental stress creates heritable changes in gene expression. What appears as "intergenerational patterns" reflects biological adaptation to environmental threat. Change the environment across generations, and epigenetic expression shifts.
This science demands fundamental practice reconsideration:
The science is clear: humans are exquisitely designed to adapt to environmental changes whilst resisting direct change attempts. Four billion years of evolution created organisms that maintain stability fiercely but adapt brilliantly when conditions shift.
Professional practice built on changing people contradicts everything we know about human biology, neuroscience, and evolution. The frustration professionals experience isn't personal failure - it's the predictable result of attempting biological impossibility.
The solution isn't new change techniques but paradigm shift:
Accept Biological Reality: Humans resist direct change attempts. This isn't pathology but evolutionary wisdom. Working against biology guarantees failure.
Embrace Environmental Adaptation: Humans adapt brilliantly to environmental shifts. Create conditions for adaptation rather than attempting transformation.
Respect Evolutionary Timescales: Adaptation occurs across generations, not government reporting cycles. Sustainable change happens slowly through environmental consistency.
Recognise System Complexity: Behaviour emerges from multiple interacting systems. Small environmental changes can cascade through systems, whilst direct interventions often achieve nothing.
"Feed the solution, starve the problem." The solution isn't changing people - it's creating environments where natural adaptation can occur.
Feed environmental stability: Housing, income, safety, relationships. These aren't rewards for change but prerequisites for adaptation.
Feed family agency: Support families' own environmental modifications rather than imposing professional solutions.
Feed time and patience: Allow adaptation to emerge rather than forcing change to schedule.
Feed relationship as environment: Be the stable presence that permits vulnerability and growth.
Starve direct change attempts: Stop trying to transform personality, modify deeply embedded patterns, or override evolutionary programming.
Starve pressure and coercion: These trigger resistance systems, making adaptation less likely.
Starve impossible timescales: Political cycles don't determine biological adaptation rates.
Understanding this science liberates professionals from impossible mandates. You're not failing when families don't transform - you're witnessing biological reality. You're not incompetent when resistance emerges - you're observing evolutionary wisdom.
The real work becomes clear: creating environmental conditions that permit adaptation. This isn't lesser work than transformation - it's the only work that actually works.
When professionals align practice with science rather than political fantasy, sustainable adaptation becomes possible. Not the dramatic transformations democracy demands, but the slow, steady adaptations that actually improve lives.
After six essays exploring impossibility through fiction and science, the conclusion is clear: you can't change people, but you can create conditions where people's extraordinary adaptive capacity emerges.
This isn't defeat but liberation. Understanding the science of adaptation - the evolutionary biology, the neuroscience, the ecological systems - provides solid foundation for practice that works with human nature rather than against it.
The series began with frustration and arrives at clarity. Not the false clarity of new intervention techniques, but the genuine clarity of understanding what humans actually are: brilliantly adaptive organisms that resist direct change but flourish when environments support their own adaptation.
Feed that solution. Create those environments. Support that adaptation. Work with four billion years of evolutionary wisdom rather than against it.
That's not just evidence-based practice. That's evolution-based practice.
And that, for professionals seeking to help rather than harm, might be genuinely transformative - not of families, but of professional practice itself.
The references below represent the scientific foundation for understanding why direct attempts to change people fail while environmental adaptation sometimes succeeds. They are organised thematically to support further exploration of specific aspects of this series.
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