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In-depth explorations of places and communities through the lens of family life and development

Family & Personal Development

Evidence-based insights into emotional regulation, relationships, and the foundations of healthy family life

Problems Are Problems: When Solutions Help and When They Harm

Understanding why some problems resist solutions whilst others demand immediate action
family psychology problem-solving adaptation
Like attempting to unknot a tangled ball of wool, some problems tighten when pulled directly whilst others require immediate action. Through contrasting scenarios of weight management and unemployment crisis, discover why our solution-focused culture can create more problems than it solves, and when patient engagement trumps quick fixes.
10 September 2025
18 min read
~4,500 words

Want vs Need, Shame vs Guilt: When Precision Matters

How two fundamental linguistic confusions impede understanding and effective action when clarity matters most
family professional practice language psychology
Through personal experience in bereavement counselling training and decades of family work, explore how confusing wants with needs and shame with guilt creates cascading misunderstandings in therapeutic relationships, family crises, and professional assessments—precisely when clarity matters most.
9 September 2025
16 min read
~4,200 words

A Conversation with John Bowlby

Attachment theory, modern parenting, and the wisdom of developmental science
attachment parenting development historical perspective
An imagined dialogue exploring how attachment theory's founder might view contemporary family life, social media's impact on child development, and the evolution of his insights through decades of research and application.
6 September 2025
14 min read
~3,500 words

No Time for Goodbyes: The Dance of Reciprocity

Understanding transitions and endings in family relationships
family transitions emotional regulation
Exploring how the Solihull Approach's Dance of Reciprocity helps us understand why endings matter in relationships, and how developing skills for transitions strengthens family bonds through the seven stages of emotional interaction.
8 August 2025
12 min read
~2,800 words

Freud's Structural Model for Frontline Family Support NEW

Understanding the unintegrated legacy of early infancy
family development trauma professional practice
An academic exploration of Freud's structural model through a developmental lens, examining how early ego formation in adverse environments creates lasting patterns resistant to therapeutic intervention. Using the gingerbread metaphor and contemporary research, this essay bridges psychoanalytic theory with practical application for practitioners working with families experiencing persistent dysfunction.
15 November 2025
60 min read
~20,000 words

Eric Berne's Transactional Analysis NEW

From Freudian theory to observable interaction
family professional practice communication development
An academic exploration of how psychoanalytic insight evolved into practical tools for understanding family support dynamics, tracing the journey from Freud's intrapsychic model through attachment theory to Berne's observable ego states. This essay demonstrates how Parent-Adult-Child frameworks illuminate the transactional patterns, stress dynamics, and systemic games that frontline workers encounter daily.
16 November 2025
60 min read
~20,000 words

When Your Brain Has a Mind of Its Own

Understanding stress, memory, and behaviour
family workplace neuroscience stress
How anxiety, the limbic system, and the cortex drive our mistakes, honesty, and learning. Discover why our brain "switches over" in stressful situations and how to Feed the Solution, Starve the Problem.
12 August 2025
10 min read
~2,400 words

Play—the Brain's Natural Learning Environment

Why fun and emotional cycles build skills, resilience, and lifelong learning
family neuroscience workplace play
Nature's university: how play shapes the brain, supports emotional regulation, and creates optimal conditions for memory, problem-solving, and wellbeing across a lifetime—from children's bedtime routines to workplace innovation.
15 August 2025
12 min read
~2,900 words

Systems Thinking, Cultural Commentary & Reform

Exploring larger patterns, structures, and cultural phenomena that shape human experience and social change

The Changing People Series

The Impossible Task of Changing People PART 1

Changing People: A Psychological Impossibility
professional practice family work psychology systems
Through Angie Thokden's morning chaos, discover why changing people defies physics. From professional burnout to family resistance, explore the fundamental impossibility that shapes every helping relationship. The opening salvo of a series examining why good intentions aren't enough when facing biological imperatives.
3 September 2025
30 min read
~7,800 words

The Mathematics of Resistance PART 2

Changing People: A Psychological Impossibility
neuroscience psychology mathematics resistance
Why the brain's 12.5 watts can't overcome 3.5 billion years of evolution. Through mathematical principles and Kahneman's psychology, discover why resistance increases with pressure and how cognitive architecture makes change neurologically implausible. The science behind why trying harder makes things worse.
3 September 2025
45 min read
~11,500 words

The Evolutionary Roots of Resistance PART 3

Changing People: A Psychological Impossibility
evolution psychology neuroscience adaptation
How evolution's complete 'nonsense' is pure biological genius. From the giraffe's five-metre nerve detour to human resistance patterns, discover why our psychological responses developed as survival mechanisms, not design flaws. Featuring insights from Richard Dawkins and E.O. Wilson on the evolutionary debates that explain why change resistance isn't pathology—it's ancient wisdom operating in modern contexts.
3 September 2025
22 min read
~5,700 words

When Helping Hurts: The Professional's Dilemma PART 4

Changing People: A Psychological Impossibility
professional practice moral injury systems social work
The moral injury of promising impossible transformations. Following Angie Thokden through her professional crucifixion—stretched between political demands for change and evolutionary reality of resistance. How workers become unwilling participants in systematic harm whilst trying to help. From morning supervision to evening exhaustion, witness the gap between what we promise and what actually works.
4 September 2025
58 min read
~15,000 words

Influence and Adaptation PART 5

Changing People: A Psychological Impossibility
adaptation influence evolution family systems
What Darwin actually taught us about adaptation versus change. How influence works through environmental adjustment, not direct intervention. The biological approach to supporting human development without triggering resistance mechanisms. Understanding the difference between forcing change and creating conditions for natural adaptation.
5 September 2025
25 min read
~6,500 words

The View from Here PART 6

Changing People: A Psychological Impossibility
synthesis philosophy practice wisdom future directions
Understanding the impasse between what we want and what's possible. Series synthesis exploring implications for practice, policy, and personal life. How to work with rather than against human nature in family development and professional practice. A compassionate examination of why we keep trying to change others despite knowing it doesn't work.
5 September 2025
30 min read
~7,500 words

Collective Intelligence & Systems

Understanding Collective Intelligence

How termite mounds and human brains reveal nature's blueprint for distributed cognition
systems neuroscience leadership
Deep insights into how termite mounds, human societies, and the brain all demonstrate the same universal principle: intelligence emerges not from individual units, but from coordinated networks of specialised parts working together.
5 August 2025
15 min read
~3,800 words

The Feedback Paradox: When Asking Signals Not Listening NEW

How feedback requests reveal organisational deafness rather than openness
organisational listening professional practice systems consultation
When organisations ask "How are we doing?" they reveal they haven't been paying attention. Through the lens of Macnamara's research on organisational listening, discover why formal feedback requests signal absence rather than presence, and how the "sugar hit" of consultation creates cycles of hope and betrayal that damage trust at a biological level.
14 October 2025
20 min read
~5,000 words

Executive Mobs: The Whirlpool of Professional Groupthink and Societal Looting NEW

How professional helping systems become mobs that maintain dysfunction
groupthink systems professional practice mob psychology
Examining mob behaviour as evolutionary adaptation, from civil unrest looting to the Post Office Horizon scandal. How professional teams become mobs through Drama Triangle dynamics, projective identification, and the stroke economy that silences dissent.
10 November 2025
45 min read
~11,000 words

Collective Intelligence & Leadership

Hiring, Rehearsing and Performing: Lessons from Nick D'Virgilio's Brain Preparation

How individual cognitive preparation creates the foundation for collective excellence
professional practice neuroscience recruitment performance
Through drummer Nick D'Virgilio's methodical practice for a Genesis tour, discover profound insights about brain preparation for high-stakes performance. From job interviews to team collaboration, explore the difference between earned confidence and false bravado, why the arrogance-ignorance-incompetence matrix matters, and how genuine preparation enables collective excellence.
23 September 2025
35 min read
~9,000 words

Living Emergence: How Collective Intelligence Shapes Our Everyday Lives

From termite mounds to family mornings—practical wisdom for leaders, parents, and communities
leadership family systems workplace
Applying the principles of collective intelligence to everyday life: how stress responses, transitions, and play work the same way in families, workplaces, and communities. Practical insights for leaders and parents.
20 August 2025
12 min read
~3,100 words

When the Cat Rules the Dog

Psychology of confidence in social groups
leadership workplace systems confidence
How quiet confidence shapes social dynamics in professional settings. From boardroom peacocking to authentic presence, discover why internal confidence matters more than external displays of power and how genuine influence emerges from steadiness, not showmanship.
27 August 2025
14 min read
~3,400 words

Brothers in Contrasts

The Hitchens Legacy for Thoughtful Leadership
leadership family dynamics attachment conflict
How childhood dynamics shape adult leadership through the contrasting paths of Christopher and Peter Hitchens. From a father's peace treaty to public intellectual opposition, discover how early family patterns influence professional styles and the value of constructive disagreement.
2 September 2025
16 min read
~4,000 words

Additional Policy & Reform Essays

The Victoria Sponge Problem

Why schools can't be everything to everyone
policy systems analysis education reform
Like an overburdened Victoria sponge collapsing under too many layers, our children's services fragment under impossible expectations. From Sure Start's promise to current crisis, this structural analysis proposes parish-based integration where services meet families naturally, not through institutional gatekeeping.
30 August 2025
18 min read
~4,500 words

Navigating Truth and Deception

Safeguarding in a world of lies
safeguarding professional practice deception ethics
From personal anecdotes to fabricated abuse disclosures, exploring the landscape of deception in safeguarding. When truth becomes transactional, how do professionals navigate between protection and manipulation?
1 September 2025
20 min read
~5,000 words

Syntropy and the Tag: The Accidental Prophecy of the Awful Popcorn Movie Hackers NEW

How a terrible 1995 film accidentally encoded truths about technology, identity, and culture
cultural analysis technology identity syntropy
A terrible film that won't stop spreading its hidden code. Through the lens of syntropy—order emerging from chaos—explore how Hackers (1995) accidentally prophesied cybersecurity's importance, encoded alternative counterculture identity, and continues finding new receivers thirty years later. From hacker culture to queer coding, discover why this failed movie succeeded at something unmeasurable.
3 November 2025
23 min read
~5,800 words

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