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Community & Local Guides

In-depth explorations of places and communities through the lens of family life and development

Family & Personal Development

Evidence-based insights into emotional regulation, relationships, and the foundations of healthy family life

Problems Are Problems: When Solutions Help and When They Harm

Understanding why some problems resist solutions whilst others demand immediate action
family psychology problem-solving adaptation
Like attempting to unknot a tangled ball of wool, some problems tighten when pulled directly whilst others require immediate action. Through contrasting scenarios of weight management and unemployment crisis, discover why our solution-focused culture can create more problems than it solves, and when patient engagement trumps quick fixes.
10 September 2025
18 min read
~4,500 words

Want vs Need, Shame vs Guilt: When Precision Matters

How two fundamental linguistic confusions impede understanding and effective action when clarity matters most
family professional practice language psychology
Through personal experience in bereavement counselling training and decades of family work, explore how confusing wants with needs and shame with guilt creates cascading misunderstandings in therapeutic relationships, family crises, and professional assessments—precisely when clarity matters most.
9 September 2025
16 min read
~4,200 words

A Conversation with John Bowlby

Attachment theory, modern parenting, and the wisdom of developmental science
attachment parenting development historical perspective
An imagined dialogue exploring how attachment theory's founder might view contemporary family life, social media's impact on child development, and the evolution of his insights through decades of research and application.
6 September 2025
14 min read
~3,500 words

No Time for Goodbyes: The Dance of Reciprocity

Understanding transitions and endings in family relationships
family transitions emotional regulation
Exploring how the Solihull Approach's Dance of Reciprocity helps us understand why endings matter in relationships, and how developing skills for transitions strengthens family bonds through the seven stages of emotional interaction.
8 August 2025
12 min read
~2,800 words

When Your Brain Has a Mind of Its Own

Understanding stress, memory, and behaviour
family workplace neuroscience stress
How anxiety, the limbic system, and the cortex drive our mistakes, honesty, and learning. Discover why our brain "switches over" in stressful situations and how to Feed the Solution, Starve the Problem.
12 August 2025
10 min read
~2,400 words

Play—the Brain's Natural Learning Environment

Why fun and emotional cycles build skills, resilience, and lifelong learning
family neuroscience workplace play
Nature's university: how play shapes the brain, supports emotional regulation, and creates optimal conditions for memory, problem-solving, and wellbeing across a lifetime—from children's bedtime routines to workplace innovation.
15 August 2025
12 min read
~2,900 words

Truth, Lies, and Raising Resilient Children

Why childhood lying is developmentally essential
parenting development safeguarding resilience
From first fibs to teenage white lies, deception marks crucial cognitive and social milestones. Yet modern parenting occurs under the "microscope effect" of institutional scrutiny. Explores how families navigate truth-telling when every parental decision faces potential professional judgment.
30 August 2025
15 min read
~3,600 words

The Case of the Missing Hours: A Columbo Investigation

When child protection meets careful observation
neurodiversity safeguarding temporal processing diagnosis
Through Detective Columbo's gentle investigation, discover how temporal processing disorder can masquerade as fabricated illness. A story that reveals why professional curiosity matters more than assumptions, with scientific grounding in neurological differences that affect time perception.
31 August 2025
20 min read
~5,200 words

Systems & Professional Insights

Understanding complex systems, collective intelligence, and their applications in leadership and organisations

Collective Intelligence & Leadership

Hiring, Rehearsing and Performing: Lessons from Nick D'Virgilio's Brain Preparation

How individual cognitive preparation creates the foundation for collective excellence
professional practice neuroscience recruitment performance
Through drummer Nick D'Virgilio's methodical practice for a Genesis tour, discover profound insights about brain preparation for high-stakes performance. From job interviews to team collaboration, explore the difference between earned confidence and false bravado, why the arrogance-ignorance-incompetence matrix matters, and how genuine preparation enables collective excellence.
23 September 2025
35 min read
~9,000 words

Living Emergence: How Collective Intelligence Shapes Our Everyday Lives

From termite mounds to family mornings—practical wisdom for leaders, parents, and communities
leadership family systems workplace
Applying the principles of collective intelligence to everyday life: how stress responses, transitions, and play work the same way in families, workplaces, and communities. Practical insights for leaders and parents.
20 August 2025
12 min read
~3,100 words

When the Cat Rules the Dog

Psychology of confidence in social groups
leadership workplace systems confidence
How quiet confidence shapes social dynamics in professional settings. From boardroom peacocking to authentic presence, discover why internal confidence matters more than external displays of power and how genuine influence emerges from steadiness, not showmanship.
27 August 2025
14 min read
~3,400 words

Brothers in Contrasts

The Hitchens Legacy for Thoughtful Leadership
leadership family dynamics attachment conflict
How childhood dynamics shape adult leadership through the contrasting paths of Christopher and Peter Hitchens. From a father's peace treaty to public intellectual opposition, discover how early family patterns influence professional styles and the value of constructive disagreement.
28 August 2025
15 min read
~3,700 words

Policy & Systems Reform

Structural analysis of institutional systems and proposals for sustainable reform in children's services

"Changing People" Series: A Psychological Impossibility

The Reality: A Children's Services Case Study PART 1

Changing People: A Psychological Impossibility
social work systems professional practice case study
Through the fictional yet deeply realistic experiences of social worker Angie Thokden at Midkwell County Council, witness how the system simultaneously demands and fails at the impossible task of changing others. A comprehensive exploration of why adaptation, not change, is what actually works in human development.
2 September 2025
65-70 min read
~17,000 words

Why Trying to Change People Never Works PART 2

Changing People: A Psychological Impossibility
psychology behavioural science systems professional practice
The psychological foundations of why we cannot directly change others. From neuroplasticity to attachment theory, discover the scientific evidence that explains why all genuine transformation must come from within, and how adaptation—not forced change—creates sustainable development.
2 September 2025
25 min read
~6,500 words

The Evolutionary Roots of Resistance PART 3

Changing People: A Psychological Impossibility
evolution psychology neuroscience adaptation
How evolution's complete 'nonsense' is pure biological genius. From the giraffe's five-metre nerve detour to human resistance patterns, discover why our psychological responses developed as survival mechanisms, not design flaws. Featuring insights from Richard Dawkins and E.O. Wilson on the evolutionary debates that explain why change resistance isn't pathology—it's ancient wisdom operating in modern contexts.
3 September 2025
22 min read
~5,700 words

When Helping Hurts: The Professional's Dilemma PART 4

Changing People: A Psychological Impossibility
professional practice moral injury systems social work
The moral injury of promising impossible transformations. Following Angie Thokden through her professional crucifixion—stretched between political demands for change and evolutionary reality of resistance. How workers become unwilling participants in systematic harm whilst trying to help. From morning supervision to evening exhaustion, witness the gap between what we promise and what actually works.
4 September 2025
58 min read
~15,000 words

Influence and Adaptation PART 5

Changing People: A Psychological Impossibility
adaptation influence evolution family systems
What Darwin actually taught us about adaptation versus change. How influence works through environmental adjustment, not direct intervention. The biological approach to supporting human development without triggering resistance mechanisms. Understanding the difference between forcing change and creating conditions for natural adaptation.
5 September 2025
25 min read
~6,500 words

The View from Here PART 6

Changing People: A Psychological Impossibility
synthesis philosophy practice wisdom future directions
Understanding the impasse between what we want and what's possible. Series synthesis exploring implications for practice, policy, and personal life. How to work with rather than against human nature in family development and professional practice. A compassionate examination of why we keep trying to change others despite knowing it doesn't work.
5 September 2025
30 min read
~7,500 words

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